The Evolution of Love
It's really interesting when you take the time and look at the definition, layers, and divots of love. As a whole, it represents a pleasurable and intense affection but for me, it goes even deeper. Love is more than what we see on television, more than our inner circle, more than what we were taught, and more than any love expert can tell us.
I don't believe there is one "correct way" to love but sides to giving and receiving it; toxic and manipulative, codependent and desperate, or balanced and encouraging. I believe these are a few of the main things that give love either a good or bad name and can leave good or bad perspectives and experiences. This can skew our vision and can sometimes keep us locked in a cycle of connections in hopes those particular connections fulfill the love we desire. But what is the love we so desire? What does that look like? What does it feel like?
I've had my fair share of romantic experiences and a lot of those interactions needed not only time to heal from but moments of reflection, observation, and realization. Spending this time single has been oddly beneficial. I was able to witness my former self engage in love dynamics that mimicked what I was used to. It was a significant awareness that highlighted I didn't know what love was nor what healthy love entailed. I only knew the version that I unconsciously adopted growing up. I was oblivious to its overall and personal definition. Wait, personal definition??
Love's overall definition is only a surface-level snapshot of what love means on an individual level, but it takes time to discover that. Weeding through the muck of what I was taught and the versions witnessed around me is not an easy task but once I saw the lake for what it was and then followed its stream to the ocean, I realized love has vast and immense energies. Love is a sea of whatever you need it to be for you and since I'm going down this weird little mermaid trail (and no I have not seen the movie) there are plenty of fish as well as caverns of love to discover and get to know. It's a world that can open you up to learning healthier ways to love and experience it. It may also, dare I say it, start the course towards bumping into one's mer-soul-maid (soulmate). Yes, I merged the two, don't come for me, lol!
All jokes aside, learning a new way to love and knowing your love design opens new energies and unlocks new character engagements. The challenge, if you are up to it requires being totally and authentically honest with who you are down to the core!
Love is simply understanding your true design.
Self-discovery and balancing of myself have helped me to see more than I planned and now I feel I am on another quest towards experiencing a new type of love, one I'm not familiar with, one I'm admittedly scared about, and one I'm also excited to dive into. New experiences, dynamics, personalities, respect, knowledge, and healthy affection! Here's to the next level!
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