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Writer's pictureS. Nicole

Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s

Where is the DeLorean?


Woo, Chile!

So I was sitting here reflecting on what my life would look like if I knew the things that I know now in my 20s. Bullshit be damned, we'd be flourishing and honestly farther along.


Well, at least in a better headspace!



You come First!

One of the first things I would share with myself is that her worth, wellness, and happiness mean more than the foolery she's tolerating and that YES, it's fucking okay to be a little selfish!


Do You!

Reflect, recalibrate, and enhance! I wasn't always one to follow the beat of my own drum but I definitely wish I drummed a little harder. 20-year-old me could have used more of this thunderous tone. I feel I would have gotten to know this quirky unicorn a lot sooner had I did.


Leave the Trash by the side of the Road!

As much as I love old and eclectic things, this did not apply to the people I dealt with along the way. I would definitely stress that if the energy felt off then it probably was. Move on and leave the trash by the side of the road!


Trust yourself!

A major thing that I always did was second guess what I was feeling about people, places, and things, and had I listened this would have alleviated so many heartbreaks and mishaps. I also could have embarked on a more fulfilling adventure of a lifetime!


Stand Up to Your Mother!

Yes, I loved my mother dearly but she was one of the reasons I didn't live from the depths of my soul. I felt obligated to take care of her and never left my comfort zone. In addition, a lot of my instilled fears were a recreation of her own torments and struggles. I adopted more hindering modalities than flourishing ones.


Travel!

Get out and see the world! This is my heaviest of regrets and believe me, I am trying my damdest to rectify. I would have told the me of old to engage with other cultures and get a different scope than her surroundings. I feel I would have been well-rounded and less ridged had I done so.


Date and get to know the waters!

Settling in the first two-legged human that showed interest was one of my ultimate mistakes. I stayed in long-term relationships that kept me boxed in or chasing love, affection, or emotional acknowledgment. Hence the reason why I focus on emotional wellness now.


This was honestly fun to think about and believe me if I had a time machine I would change a few things. I would have still tolerated my daughter's sperm donor though as she wouldn't have been here without him. Other than that, onward I shall go and into the terrains of the midlife field to frolic and be merry.


Until Next time readers!


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